117. Becoming Her: Your Vision Blueprint for Identity Reinvention | No. 1: Time Mastery is the Engine of Vision

"Words matter," you’re always hearing from me. The words that resonate with you, and you alone, have served as your rough draft for reinvention at midlife and beyond, for that “second act,” best life ever you want and deserve. Remember, this 2025 story of renewal is being authored beautifully by you, uniquely for you to put people-pleasing and your old story behind. Now? Well it’s time to illustrate the exciting new life tale you’re ready to tell. How? With a vision so real, it reveals and completes what’s only been percolating in your mind up to now.

To reclaim your potential now and reach for the new midlife-plus identity you want without further delay, come work with me now. Just send an email to hello@laurieadamscoaching.com to schedule a no pressure conversation about individual coaching. We’ll explore what means the most to you and how I can lead you to achieve that success with the best problem-solving actions and exciting vision unique for you. That’s what I’m here for.

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Hi, and welcome to the Fire Up at 55 Plus Podcast, a show about how to put yourself first in your second act of life. I'm Certified Life and Weight Loss Coach Lori Adams, here to empower you to let go of guilt, take charge of your health, then find and fulfill your dreams. It's never too late, so let's get started. Your game changer for true transformation at MidLife Plus is here. I'm Certified Life, Weight Loss and Productivity Coach Lori Adams, bringing you a fresh series of episodes to bring the future you you've been thinking about into the here and now. The series is titled Becoming Her, your Vision Blueprint for Identity Reinvention. Ready? Set? Let's go. Although it's episode 117, today's podcast is the first in our vision and identity series called Becoming Her, Your Vision Blueprint for Identity Reinvention. The hinting I've been doing is over, and the real deal begins now on a fresh foundation built with time, creativity, and true vision. Let's back up just a bit. All year we've been talking about your transformation tale and how to write it to take you from an old stuck story to a new one with all your desires woven into the plot. Who do I want to be in this chapter was a big question in a recent fireup podcast episode. My answer was this isn't about burning everything down. It's about consciously choosing the habits, thoughts, and rhythms that match your next identity. Midlife isn't the end of your story. It's like the editorial desk. You get to rewrite, reframe, and reignite the next part, your best life with intention. So with this series you'll move from thoughts about intention to real illustration of your story with tangible pictures beyond your imaginings. It's time now to illustrate your storyline with exciting new vision. So to be clear, specifically I'm teaching in this series for time, how you master it versus trying to manage it. For creativity, how to unleash it, especially if you focus so much on the needs of others that you just couldn't connect the potential you you felt into a thriving identity in life. For vision, to move from an elusive dream in your mind to the empowerment of putting it on paper in concrete images and descriptive words you can detail on paper and reveal to others. You can tell them who you are, who you really are. Today's first in the series is titled Time Mastery is the engine of vision. I'm going to give you information here and I'm going to give you a little bit of practical tools, but I just want to say now, before I forget, that more practical application will be coming in future episodes. So I don't want you to feel that you've just got part of the story as far as getting going. I just don't want to give you too much to do today. Words matter. You're always hearing that from me. The words that resonate with you and you alone have been your rough draft for reinvention at midlife and beyond for that second act, best life ever you want and deserve. Remember again this 2025 story of renewal is being authored beautifully by you, uniquely for you, to put people pleasing and your old story behind. Now well, it's time to illustrate the exciting new life tale you're ready to tell. How? With a vision that is so real, it reveals and completes what's only been percolating in your mind up to now. But you don't have to wait until the series is complete. Your blueprint begins now by acting today like the woman you want to be tomorrow. As your blueprint grows every day, time building upon it becomes more important. And this is where I really encourage you to use a simple paper journal, you know, a piece of paper each day, or a planner to keep track of your storyline and the time that you're spending, how you're spending it, and what you're doing about that. I am not going to go into all the reasons right now that pen to paper is the best way to reinforce your learning, but it is a fact and science supports it. More importantly, it's a gift to yourself that I bet you will come to enjoy, even if you're a little reluctant to start, because perfectionism often comes into play when we start a new journal or piece of paper. Get rid of it. Start ugly as people have told me, and that ugly is going to turn into something beautiful for you as you realize more and more the value you have and the value you deserve going forward. Okay, now about time management. Why oh why do we keep using and pushing this untrue? Words matter, and since we cannot slow down or speed up actual time, let's choose mastery over management here. Time management yon ick even. Time mastery is a choice, where we are in control and we can fill our time as we please. Cutting out what really doesn't matter to us. Cutting out what others demand of us. Join the We Do Not Care Club on that one. Now, don't roll your eyes or think uh another calendar lecture. This is different. Because time mastery, when it's done right, isn't about squeezing more chores into your day. It's about aligning your hours with your heart. It's about building a vision you can live, not just imagine. So you know how I love a quote or two, or maybe even more, that resonates. So here are a few thought provoking ones. A couple to start with, first from seven habits expert, Stephen Covey, who explained it this way The key is not in spending time, he said, but in investing in it. So that one word, words matter, investing, changes everything. Habits make deposits, but time mastery grows the account. And Peter Drecker, one of the great minds in leadership, once said, until we can manage time, we can manage nothing else. Until we can master time, I wish he had said we can master nothing else. But what he was trying to say is that's how central time is, and using it to your life, your best life. If family is your value, are they on your calendar? If health is your value, does your schedule reflect movement, rest, going to the doctor, and nourishment? If creativity lights you up, do you have an hour carved out for writing, painting, or dreaming? Better yet, do you have a day, retreat, road trip or vacation that isn't tethered to a calendar? While accountability to a supportive schedule is really valuable, adding in joy by subtracting some of that schedule is priceless. So why does time mastery matter to vision building? Start by thinking about without mastery some mastery over time. Your vision isn't clear, it remains vague. You can have a dream to write the book, run the 5K, launch the business, but if your hours actually keep slipping away to distractions and obligations, that dream stays locked in your head. Time mastery is what turns someday into today. It's the scaffolding that holds up your architecture, your blueprint of identity. When you manage your time, you don't just get things done. When you master your time, you make your values visible and you get things done. Best selling author Anne Rice wrote None of us really changes over time. We only become more fully what we are. Ponder that taking your potential and growing it. Better yet, we put pen to paper on becoming more fully the realized you, the identity that comes out of your potential. So there's time and there's habits. What's the difference? So you might be wondering what about habits? James Clear, Charles Duhig, BJ Fogg, we've talked about, and many of us have read about the power of tiny actions. And habits are wonderful. But here's the catch. Habits keep you busy. Time mastery makes sure those habits connect, ladder up to your vision. So for example, you could build the habit of journaling five minutes a day, that's fantastic. But if your real vision is to publish a memoir, you also need to block out bigger chunks of time, say two mornings a week, to work on actual chapters. Habits are the bricks. Time mastery is the blueprint. Now let's talk about the traps. Because midlife women often act as though they're masters of multitasking, that's a real unattainable standard. That steals your best life. Here are three traps I see women falling into over and over. First, over commitment, saying yes to everyone else's priorities, leaving no room for your own. We all know where that came from. We came from people pleasing, from growing up in a certain generation where we were expected to put ourselves last. And we weren't really encouraged to vision much about our future and what we really wanted for ourselves. So if you want to have room for your own priorities, forget about committing and overcommitting, especially to others. Distraction is another one. Time vanishes, we all know, into social media, TV binges, endless errands. The other trap I'd say is self neglect, putting yourself last on the list. And that eventually erases your energy, your enthusiasm for everything else. Sound familiar? Probably. But the truth is these traps are not moral failings. They're simply misalignments between your values and your calendar. The good news misalignments can be corrected. Goldmayer, Israel's first woman prime minister once said I must govern the clock, not be governed by it. That's the antidote to these traps. Deciding not drifting. So here's a couple ways that you can begin this week. Begin now with what I'll call value first scheduling. Instead of asking what do I have time for, ask what do I value most and schedule that first. Everything else fills in around it. So people talk about a big three, a list of five or seven, just one value most item scheduled. It's going to give you a lot of satisfaction, encouragement, and feeling that you're making progress. And then this week, write, walk, dream, plan, whatever brings you closer to the identity you want to live. One hour this week. That's it, that's enough. And when you do it, you'll feel the difference immediately. If you've ever struggled with motivation or felt stuck, identity-based change enhanced by a tangible vision will support your breakthrough. Why? Because instead of trying to force yourself into change, you start aligning with the her you want to become. And that is the real game changer in midlife. I am so excited to continue the series next week with more of your fresh, full process for visioning, including some practical time mastery actions so that you can name and claim your future identity for details way beyond dreams. To reclaim your potential now and reach for the new midlife plus identity you want without any further delay, come work with me now. Just send an email to hello at LoriAdamsCoing dot com to schedule a no pressure conversation and Q ⁇ A about individual coaching. We'll explore what means the most to you and how I can lead you to achieve that success with the best problem solving actions that are doable and unique for you. That's what I'm here for. Again, remember this story of renewal is authored beautifully by you. Let's edit it with the best tools available and illustrate it to reflect the real you so that you'll never want to put your story away. I can't wait to see how your 2025 transformation tale continues to unfold with the utmost fulfillment. And to keep the transformational information coming each week, please follow Fire Up at 55 Plus wherever you download your podcasts. And if on Apple, share a review and a star worthy rating. It's much appreciated.